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Healing is Not Linear





Staying committed is essential to recovery from trich.  We all have those days when the idea seems very doable and all important…but then there are those other days when things are not going so great and it seems too hard, not worth the fight.  It is in those times when commitment is most important.  The decision to fight no matter how we feel or how we are doing in our current situation is the difference maker.  It is easy enough to continue on when the urge isn’t bad, but stopping yourself when it is all consuming is the real key.  It is the decision to keep working after a major pulling episode or when your hair is at its worst.

Through a steadfast commitment to monitoring and consistent use of helpful strategies, the pulling WILL get better.  We must preserve even when it seems our efforts are in vain.  This why progress monitoring is great…we can take a step back and look at our patterns over a long period of time.  Even though the past day, week, or month has been bad, the overall decline in pulling will be evident with continued dedication to recovery.

I have tried charting for many years, but usually give up after a few months when it seems it is not helping.  I am now committed to chart each day no matter what.  I know in the long run, this will lead to progress.  It may take years, but I will get better.  The good times will last longer and it will be easier to climb out of the depths of a bad pulling spree.  Eventually, it will be easier to resist the urges and in time I know I will be pull free.  I am committed, even when I don’t feel like it, I will continue.

As for my current situation…I am 16 days PF on my scalp and 4 days pull free with my lashes.  March looks like it will be the first month since September when I had more good days than bad days.  This is progress for which I am very thankful.  My hair still doesn’t look any better, but I know I am working towards my goal and that feels great.

Here is a great post about commitment to kicking trich:

And the #1 Strategy for Beating Trichotillomania Is…

The Difference That Makes The Difference

…you have to make ENDING this problem a MUST for you.

What do I mean by that?

Well, a long time ago, I heard someone say, “We rarely get should’s, but we always get our MUSTS.”…click for full post


After a relapse, this week has been a much needed reprieve.  For the past few months my pulling had been getting worse, to the point where it was as bad as it had been in July.  I was starting to feel hopeless, as I continued all my strategies to no avail.  I just kept praying and trusting God to help me through this.  I knew I had been down before and had come out of it so I held onto that hope.

I hadn’t had a pull free day in months, then it happened…1 DAY, 1 whole day!  It was such a relief, I had almost forgotten how nice it felt to complete a day and mark it off on my calendar.  I am on my fourth day now and am feeling really good.  My urge is more manageable but the new growth is tempting.  I’m not expecting to be completely pull free, as time and time again I have seen that an all or nothing view of trich is just not reasonable.  Yes I do believe one day I can be pull free for good.  For now, I will take it one day at a time and cherish each good day.  It’s celebrating the little victories that will keep me strong throughout this battle.

Through hard times, I find it is even more important to hold tightly to the promises of God.  These are a few of my favorite versus that remind me of my hope is in God.

“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”

Isaiah 41:10

11 “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. 12 Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. 13 You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.

Jeremiah 29:11-13

“But blessed is the man who trusts in the LORD, whose confidence is in him.”

Jeremiah 17:7

“Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.”

Proverbs 3:5-6

“Commit to the LORD whatever you do, and your plans will succeed.” Proverbs 16:3

“But now, Lord, what do I look for? My hope is in you.”  

Psalm 39:7