I have curly, frizzy, dry, puffy hair that drives me nuts. I have tried so many products to try and tame my hair and give me nice curls. I have also damaged my hair with hair dye and straightening. All of this damage and kinky hair drives me nuts. It’s one factor that leads to my pulling.
Well I’ve been feeling especially bad about my hair lately as my bald patches are growing and have been increasingly hard to hide. Also they make the summer months difficult as I try to avoid sunburn on my scalp (that is a terrible experience for anyone, but especially so for a trichster).
After hearing about the ‘curly girl method’ from various sources, I decided to give it a try. I’m hoping to revive my curls and at the same time hopefully decrease my urge to pull or at least help me like something about my hair.
To get started I went on YouTube and Pinterest and searched the curly girl method. I learned that it all started with a book titled Curly Girl: The Handbook by Lorainne Massey. I got the kindle version and have been reading it. I’ve skipped around a bit as I was eager to get started and figured I could learn the finer points as I go.
Some videos I found on YouTube were especially helpful. They are posted by waterlily716. The link below is a video that gives a great overview and helped me get started.
How to Manage Curly Hair: The Curly Girl Method
My Hair: Day 1 of curly girl method
My daughter’s hair: Day 1 (I love her curls!)
I am behind on posting my progress, but at least I have been charting. This is the longest I have every diligently tallied my pulling. In the past, I always gave up after a couple months, usually when my pulling got worse and I couldn’t face the numbers. I have learned that charting increases my awareness of my pulling and my triggers. I have made a goal to chart continually, as I believe this is a major factor in my recovery.
My goal for May was to have more good days than I did in March. My March totals were 17 good days and 14 bad day. I met my goal! This feels great, especially after not meeting my goal for April. Looking at June, I did not do as well. With a newborn, sleep deprivation, and use of caffeine I can see why I did worse. I know these circumstances are only temporary, so I am going to continue to do my best. I know things will improve once I get more sleep and go back to faithfully following the John Kender Diet.
May’s monthly totals:
Score 0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
# of Days 1 2 2 18 1 3 4 0 0 0 0
Good = 23 Ok = 8 Bad = 0
June’s monthly totals:
Score 0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
# of Days 0 1 0 11 5 4 3 4 2 0 0
Good = 12 Ok = 12 Bad = 6
We welcomed our fourth child into the world on May 13th. Rachel Sophia is a beautiful, healthy girl, weighing 7lbs. 6oz at birth. I fell in love right away. She has big blue eyes and dark hair. All four of my kids have different color hair. Brooke, my seven year old, has dirty blonde hair. Alexandria, my 4 year old, has very red hair. Mark, my 19 month old has strawberry blonde hair. Six week old Rachel has the darkest hair of all. They are all uniquely beautiful, yet you can tell they are siblings. I am a very proud mama and am so happy I get to be home with my kids.
When I had Mark, I was still teaching and had to go back to work when he was only two months old. Those were the hardest months of my life. I felt torn, like I wasn’t being a good enough mother, wife, or teacher. There just wasn’t enough of my to go around. Now, I can devote my attention to my children and husband. I make enough money tutoring a few hours per week to cover my school loans. I hope to get more jobs as it would be great to make a living at tutoring, It is something I love, and it allows me to make my own schedule.
May and June have been good months in terms of pulling (I know June is not over yet, but I’m on a good streak). I’ve had many more good days than bad days lately; although I have not had a totally pull free day in weeks. I have mostly left my hair alone or stopped myself after only a few strands. Thank goodness because it’s so thin on top and it is growing in soo slow. I have still been pulling my eyelashes and eyebrows. Although I want to stop that as well, I’m happy to be doing better with my scalp. The eyelashes and eyebrows are a much older habit that will be harder to break. As I have time and again. I can go months without touching my hair, but have never made it more than a few weeks with my lashes and brows.
I am proud to have done so well considering my extreme lack of sleep and stress over dealing with a high maintenance baby. With my 3 previous babies I have suffered from postpartum depression and anxiety, along with increased pulling. I’ve been a little down, but it is much better than in the past.I am using all my strategies to try and combat depression and anxiety and am doing well. I am taking magnesium, EPA, inositol and NAC. All of these are safe when breastfeeding and are beneficial to the baby.
I have been researching the use of omega 3’s in the treatment of depression, anxiety, and bipolar disorder. The current studies agree that high doses of EPA work well to treat mood disorders. DHA is another omega 3 and works better for cognition and fetal/infant development. Studies show that supplementing with only EPA or higher doses of EPA than DHA work best for mood disorder.
I just had a baby and have been taking 1 gram of DHA throughout my pregnancy. I will continue this dose until I am done breatfeeding. I have also been taking 500 mg of EPA. Now I am increasing my EPA dose to 2 grams. I am hoping this will help with postpartum depression, which I had badly with my 3 previous children. I will keep you posted as to my progress with this increase. Here is some helpful information about EPA for depression, suggested doses, and relevant studies.
High Doses of Omega 3 EPA and Depresion
Omega 3 Fatty Acids